Mohabbat kya hai .. ..

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Mohabbat kya hai… dil ka dard se ma’moor ho jana .. mata e jaan kisi ko saunp kar .. majboor ho jana ………

Jaahil ki baton ka behtareen jawaab khamoshi hota hai, magar jab baat karni hi paray toh ussay apne zarf aur ilm se agahi deni chahiyeh .. shayad samajh ajaye.

 Allah The Exalted Says (what means): {And of His Signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.}[Quran 30: 21]
The relationship between spouses is based on affection and mercy, not on ardent love, desire and passion. It is a relationship which is based on quiet love (affection) and mutual mercy, not illusions of love which fail to withstand reality or romantic fantasies which fail to create a successful marriage.
Sighs, my dear sister as I choose to refer you as, in my viewpoint..
Love is created by our creator and is not an emotion that can be created at the will of a mere human being, that aside, our religion is solely based upon peace, kindness, love, mercy and we must abide by such emotions that aid us in leading our lives based upon harmony, brotherhood, compassion and unity.
Anyhow, to further enlighten your limited perceptions and shed some light on your narrow horizon, let me think a way to phrase my input, in my opinion, any normal woman would have traits of jealousy, possessiveness and envy when it pertains to her spouse or marital relations, BUT since when is a muslim woman categorized as having those traits and known to ACT upon them without abiding by common sense and some fear of her Almighty Allah swt ?? To blatantly put it, possession is best kept for THINGS not people, Jinns possess humans as per my limited knowledge, not wives possessing their respective mates, when in Islam, man has supreme power over his mate after the Almighty, she must abide by his terms and desires, not even her own father’s for that matter, and man may marry without consenting any of his wives at any given time, it is a man’s world and woman was created to be his mate, to give him love, peace and bear his children, I may be sounding very redundant, and rather regressive BUT this is fact and I cannot let my feminist alter ego advise otherwise.
To put it mildly, what is FITNA?? You have the paperwork, children and your spouse with you?? hmm your own actions have gotten you guilty of literally causing malice toward your sister, who bore your husband’s child, and lost it due to reasons best known to YOU, look within and see if you are able to forgive yourself?
FITNA? your cup remains filled, whereas she has been emptied of her cup, which is clearly forbidden in islam, by our creator, if she were to cause a rift between spouses, it would have been the other way around, and deep inside your heart you are most aware, that, who got whom divorced, as per your words.
So, basically you are a muslim by virtue of birth, attire and name BUT not by beliefs??
If that is not the case, do read tafseer of Surah Rum, Surah Yaseen, Surah Baqarah, Surah Talaq and Surah Nisa, so may you be guided, what Allah swt says about love, marriage, divorce and how only HE can create LOVE in a human heart, only HE can decree the NIKAH between two people and only HE can give or take LIFE, and FITNA arises when we as humans, stricken by ego, grief or malice, conjoin teams with the devils, and decide to take destiny in our own hands. SORRY, but I am a human who believes in the final abode, as a muslim woman, and you know very well how insecurity has gotten the best of your logic, senses and fear of Allah swt.
There is only sisterhood and co-wives in the islam that I practice and follow, I do not know any other way of life, where Nikah is half of our deen, definitely NOT a FITNA, rather, any relation outside of marriage may cause distress in the institution of marriage and society becomes corrupt and misbalanced.
I am my own person, with my own free will except in these matters, WHOM to love, whom to marry, to be a mother or remain childless, these are all divine decree and can only be altered by the weapon of DUA, NOT any other dark source, I don’t need to clarify that loving a man has nothing to do with any piece of paper, and my name is my legal identity, which is very much acceptable by the law of the land, inarguably you cannot challenge that, and the end or beginning of any relationship CANNOT be controlled or manipulated by your actions as you are as much a dependant woman on a man as I am independent, your stakes are way much higher and it is not feasible for you to push the limits of any god-fearing, decent individual, in the form of threat, these tactics wont last forever.
Have some faith in Allah swt and fear of the akhirah, and as per Shariah, my dear sister, do NOT push me to my extremes, as I am as patient as I can be volatile, were you a witness to my divorce?? have I ever bothered with your existence?? except sending you love, what wrong have I caused you?? What has lessened in your life?? what have I taken away from you?? BECAUSE I KNOW I HAVE NO POWER TO DO SO… you really need to open your heart and see logically how I have been in love with my man for reasons not in my power, 11 years of knowing him, 8 years of marrying him and 7 years apart from him, he is the father of my child, and shall remain so forever, he is the man in my last name, my heart and shall remain so, how is that any of your business?? and why does that effect you in any manner?? THAT IS THE POWER of FAITH, that can move mountains, my dear, no magic, no threats can over take that.
“… marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you will not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one…” (4:3)
Lastly, Shariah does not even insist or agree for women to keep their husband’s name as surname but it is in our country’s culture that we do so, and in our law it is fairly permissible for a married, widow or divorcee to keep or change her name so as per will, SO my dear DO NOT TELL me ever again, what I CAN and CANNOT do with my life, and WHAT my name is or isn’t, that isn’t a choice you can make for me…. for your own peace and mine, please refrain from crossing paths with me, stalking me wont help you build your life any better, I am poles apart from you, my mind set, perceptions and my niyat are not like yourz, I am showing zarf and responding to your hatred one last time with restrain and affection, hopefully I wont need to bother with a response again 🙂
it is funny because I was trying to figure out who the trouble maker was, and here you exposed yourself….. sad.. !! Oh, why don’t you try telling JEMIMA she is not KHAN anymore haha !!!! I am Mrs. Nazea Amin Faheem and I need no validation from you, I post pictures of my wedding or the man whom I am in love with for eternity, the father of my child, that has nothing to do with you, I will live as I please, you are in no position to dictate me your terms, okay? Good !!
You have not understood love, and that says a lot about your soul, I will pray for you.
There remains a kind of love which natural love which is a person’s inclination towards that which suits his nature, such as the love of a thirsty person for water or of a hungry person for food, or the love of sleep, or of one’s wife and children. There is nothing wrong with this unless it distracts a person from remembering Allah and keeps him from loving Him. Allah swt says (interpretation of the meanings):

“O you who believe! Let not your properties or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah”
[al-Munaafiqoon 63:9]

Start focusing on your life, deeds and stop bothering about me and my life.. I am not yet an integral part of your existence 🙂 peace out sister  !!!!!!

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